–date night at the Cowrie Cove, Shangri-La Mactan while Ykaie is at the playplace–
When we were still dating, there was nothing more exciting than seeing a movie, eating out or going to the park with my peanutbutter♥. We would always want to be together. Just the thought of seeing him after work and knowing that we would be spending the rest of the day together made me excited. And I looked forward to it with anticipation each time.
That’s how our family started..with the two of us dating.
–cheesy photos before we were married-
Three years ago, peanutbutter♥ and I got separated because he had to work overseas. It was such a challenge because we were used to having date nights even after marriage. No, it wasn’t the type of date nights that involves candle lit dinners and dressing up. It was the type that got just the two of us spending quality time together.
I think that’s the whole purpose of date night. It’s to slow the pace around you, have a chance to talk, hold hands and just enjoy being with your spouse. It doesn’t even even need to take up the whole night. Even a quickie date night will do.
I remember the time when some of our date nights would involve sitting on an old bench outside our small internet café after we closed for the day. He would have beer and I would have chips…at times there’s balut too and we would talk for hours. Other times, it’s leaving Ykaie at a play place while we would enjoy a movie together then pick her up later after the movie. I cherish those moments because it made me feel at peace and I could feel our marriage and our love growing.
-date night at the Lobby, Shangri-La Mactan while Ykaie is at the playplace-
How important do you think “date night” is to maintaining a happy and healthy marriage?
After marriage couples find it difficult to spend quality time with each other specially when there are children, bills, and a household to take care of. It tends to get set aside later. A time which may never come at all because the bills and the chores never stop coming and the children doesn’t stop growing.
Date night is important to stay connected with one another. Remember that it doesn’t need to be costly. It doesn’t need to take your whole night. Most importantly, avoid discussing hot topics on date nights. Hot Topics are those issues you have in your marriage that can quickly ignite an argument{which I am guilty of, once upon a time}.
I used to bring out hot topics during date nights because I thought it’s one way of “cornering” him but I found out the hard way that it’s one way of turning a sweet evening into bitter one and we slept without talking. Lesson was learned, so I’m sharing it to you.
-delicious Mai Tai and Beer-
I’d like to think our nightly video calls are “date nights” but the truth is now, I only get to enjoy these date nights once a year when he comes home for his one month vacation.
I miss peanutbutter♥ terribly.
marie says
what a sweet couple keep the love burning Just remember my hubby he is a sweetest guy I ever had Now I found the love of my life sorry sis hubby is gone, found a new love my Bf.
Pal Raine says
Happy reading your love story with your “peanutbutter”(kilig mode). Though I envy you for having such a wonderful partner, I tell myself someday I can find a man who will always be there to support and understand me. By the way, I am a single parent. But I am happy being single mom living with two wonderful kids, sila na lang k’date ko. Hehehehehe….
marie says
Being someone who love you unconditional love is great you two are wonderful good couple and a cute little girl perfect.
Rosemarie/Gven-Rose says
saya naman ng love story nyo, i agree date nights is good for couple, having time with each other is surely a big help to nourish the relationship and of course it keep the love burning 🙂
Makoy Tayag says
i have to agree that dates for couple is a must. sometimes couples just revolve their lives to their kids and forget why they got married in the first place.
Adin B says
Awe! How sweet. Just looking at all your photos, you can tell the love you guys have for each other. You two are looking good together. And kudos to both of you for keeping the love and passion lit up. I am sure it is so hard for you to be away from him for such a long period of time, but I am sure you cherish every moment he is home with the family. How lucky and blessed the two of you. Lovely!
Jheylo Wudy says
Every couple should do this but because of time and children it prevents us from having dates with our partner 🙁 it’s been awhile since my husband and I went out alone childless.
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nuts says
how sweet! Wonderful couple. I’m sure that one month vacation is the shortest days for you as it flies so fast when you’re together. Keep the love burning!
Serene Shikukeza says
I agree with the date! With the rising costs and unending bills, date nights should not that expensive. Everything that makes your relationship grow deeper and stronger is worth it. Stay Happy Always!
lanie says
hows romantic! Dates night for the couple are a good thing to do to keep the relationship fresh, fun, and strong.
claire rafols says
We should always find time with our spouse because it will strengthen further our relationship.
Jessica Cassidy says
I admit I missed nights just me and my hubby without kids bothering us. i agree dates are very important. We used to have lunch dates when hubby is off to work. I missed it 🙁 You both are sweet and Ykaie is one happy little girl for having parents like you guys 🙂
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Shela says
I agree how important it is for couples. It will keep the intimate relationship alive and the love growing. Advisable for couples who have kids! Husband and I make sure we have our just “us time” every now and then 🙂
The Womom says
It’s really important to keep the fire burning and one way to effectively achieve that is constant time together alone. I am always glad to see couples who are committed to be together :). God bless you both!
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dickvincedorry says
finding time for each other is really important so the bond and sweetness is always alive ^.^ you are such a lovely couple