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2014 New Year’s Resolutions for Our Marriage

January 3, 2014 / Filed Under: love, marriage, New Year

Happy New Year! I’m sorry I haven’t been posting much in this blog as much as I would like. There are just so many things that I wanted to share in all areas of my life (specially in food) that I’m almost always out of time and energy.

Hopefully I can change that this year. One of my goals, aside from healthy eating and saving more money, is to update my blogs often. Aside from that, I think our marriage also needs goals. We have a lot of things that we can improve on since peanutbutter♥ and I agreed that he can quit being an OFW this year and work here for good. That means we would be together 24/7. I’m sure there would be sweet happy moments and a lot of disagreements because he and I are completely opposite.

So let me list down some things to work on our marriage this year.

1. Spend More Time Together

I’ve blogged about how our date nights use to be. And it’s one of the things that I miss. I would love to spend more time with my peanutbutter♥ this year. It doesn’t matter if it’s on a real date night like going out or watching a movie. It’s awesome too if we can just spend a “just-us-time” at home. I want to talk to him for hours. I want to laugh with him. I want us to dine together and be our old self.

2. Have a Stronger Faith

There is nothing more I could ask for because God has blessed me with a husband who was able to restore my faith in Him. It’s a long story, one that I don’t really discuss here, but this year, I want us to practice our faith together and as a family. I know it will make our relationship stronger.

Monday Reflections: Having Faith

September 2, 2013 / Filed Under: love, marriage

One of the things that I would be forever grateful for in this marriage is that it helped restored my faith in God.

I don’t really know when it happened or how it happened exactly but it did. I am not a very religious person but my faith in God was at its weakest when peanutbutter♥ and I were married. I confided this to him and he tried to ask me the reason. At that time, I felt that this was something I couldn’t share with anyone and he let me be.

I don’t want to go into details but it was this marriage that restored my faith and I couldn’t thank peanutbutter♥ enough for bringing it back.

Things Your Husband Do That Doesn’t Matter

July 9, 2013 / Filed Under: love, marriage

“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.”

That’s a quote from J & G Murphy, marriage mentors who are married for 34 years.

I’ve thought about that quote this one time peanutbutter♥ and I are talking on video call, something we do everyday to talk, tell each other what went on in our day, and generally bond…since he’s away.

Most of the time, when I’m telling him something that happened to me during the day that’s also the time he gets caught up in his facebook wall or online shopping or whatever it is that he is looking on his screen. I do notice that he is listening with only one ear and he doesn’t really understand everything that I’m saying. There are times that I repeat what I just said. It could be really annoying when it happens frequently but it’s actually fine with me, unless I’m hormonal at the time..hee.

He didn’t notice this is happening until I did the same thing to him just to prove a point. See? he’s not even aware of it.

When building a relationship that will last a lifetime, one of the silliest things we can do is get caught up in the small things that will not matter in the end. The toilet seat that’s up, the toothpaste that’s squeezed right in the middle, and the mug of coffee that just won’t walk right up to the sink.

These are just small things that you just need to learn to overlook and live with because you just love your man too much.

And I know that he probably has 20 things he is overlooking too because he loves you waaay more.

Can you think of your ten things?